This must undoubtedly be the "week of negatives" for my Facebook and Twitter feeds. I've seen posts dismissing the use of "fingers" for counting, eliminating quality family time for the sake of "getting work done", and *deep breath* "reasons why kids are acting out now more than ever and ways to avoid that idle time by giving them more work because more work means more learning and everyone wants to learn"....
What the hiccups, man?!
Folks, there are reasons why I BLOG and then there are REASONS why I blog. Today's post is very much a REASON!
Hang on to your hats, ladies and gents -- this one's a whopper!
It's nearly bedtime and something continues to weigh on my mind. No, it's not the million and one things I need to do before our homeschool class starts on Monday. And it's certainly not the thesis I need to be working on. It's not even the mountain of household chores that I rediculously put off today in order to Netflix and nap.
It's the bothersome idea that I'm not good enough. Not good enough for my children. Not good enough as a teacher. Not good enough as a homeschool parent. You see, all day long I've been thinking about a post I saw on a facebook group. The comment was something along the lines of "...surrounded by doubt and negativity from outsiders on the choice to homeschool". I immediately thought of a woman just holding her head in her hands, feeling as though the world was out to get her.
While I've only had to argue with myself when thoughts like these pop into my head, I was caught off guard by the comment and after reading her tearful pleas for support, I started thinking of how I would approach the issue.
Then it occurred to me.
This week, we continue our series on Hard Truths. So far, we have looked at the ramifications of disorganization and eluded to the notion that indeed, a well-oiled machine doth make for easy work. However, personal health should always take precedence in all aspects. Afterall, what good is an organized home and homeschool, if you are too ill to appreciate it?
But it's more than just physical health. Mental and emotional health are to be included if we are going to talk hard and true about health. A person can have good health but still be unwell. Moreover, our support systems (friends, family, and spouse) are also important in our wellness. You can read my blog about cultivating and nurturing friendships here. But what happens when those friendships, family relationships, or even our relationship with our spouse begins to suffer, as life grabs ahold of us.
Organization Part 2: When Life Happens... School Can Still Go On
Imagine your perfect homeschool day. You've prepped your lessons, you've brewed your coffee, and if you're really on top of your game, you've even surfed the web for a few minutes and came across your favorite blogger (me, right?)! Your kids are getting along, the sun is shining, the birds are chirping and you could almost hear the Hallelujah chorus (or something akin to Cinderella and her animal helpers). Yes, all is right with the world.
Then it happens!
Part 1: Establishing Goals for YOUR Homeschool
However, I'm a realist and I hope to be brutally honest with you what I've found that works... and what doesn't. To start this series, this week I'll focus on organization. Keep in mind yesterday's post about easing into your day and removing pressure. Part of removing pressure is keeping a realistic set of goals, maintaining flexibility, and having a general order.
Happy New Year! There is something surreal about starting a new year. A new wall calendar, free of scheduled events is almost euphoric for a busy family, as you dream of things to do on all the days ahead. But sometimes, it can feel maddening as you try to fill those days up with all sorts of learning trips and events.
But there is something to be said about time and pressure that you may not have considered.
I cannot believe it is nearly 2019. A lot of changes are heading this way for our family and I’ll share them in the coming posts, but for now, I want to really focus on starting the last leg of the school year with encouragement, strength, and focus. Something our family has surely lost sight of and desperately needs to regain. I’m sure you could use some of those positive vibes as well!
I’ll start this blog by saying this little disclaimer: in no way does “my way” equal the “best way”. Each parent has their own hardships and choices to make regarding their family. But I would like to share with you something I’ve learned very quickly, but unfortunately, not quick enough: technology and the “time suck”.
Thanks for stopping by. You know, I've been cleaning up the site a little bit and it occured to me that I've not been a very faithful blogger. I've failed to blog more than a handful of times this year and now, the year is nearly over.
My New Year's Resolution (among several), is to be a better blogger. Not just in how I write, but in the content. You, the reader, deserve my best and I'm going to strive to give it to you. In doing so, I had to rediscover what it is about blogging that I enjoy...
First, it's sharing! What I've learned during this crazy adventure in homeschooling
But it's also:
and of course... some hard truths.
So, in order to do my best, I'm going to NOT focus on any one particular area, but simply, blog as I see (and feel) fit to do so. I found myself comparing my blogging skills with others. But then I realized, they may be hardcore bloggers because they are supplementing their income or, it may be their only income...
But I am not a paid blogger. For one, I don't know the first thing about affiliates and sponsors, the hows, or whats of it... I just... Don't.
But I do know about what I enjoy, and that is all that I need to worry with.
You may have noticed some changes to the site - it needed updating in the worst way! So I've changed the theme and added some new photos. I've also added a page counter at the very bottom - this lets me know what pages get the most views. Don't worry - I cannot see your IP at all... EVER!
To add a little flavor, I've asked Gia once again to host a blog series on the True Stories of Homeschool. You can find it under the Blog tab. She has families contacting her with real-life stories of homeschool families. All names and locations are omitted for privacy, but the stories are very real. She's just posted her first one, with more coming after the New Year begins.
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How many times have you defended your choice to homeschool? Tons, right? You've gone through the whole spiel of why you chose to homeschool, your views on how it's better than (insert reason/scenario), and to what extent you adapt to the various methods of homeschooling that "works" for your kiddos.
And that is fabulous! But what if you could do more?
What if you could say, "Studies show" and it mean something? We place value on studies, right? We depend on the studies of medicine, studies of history, studies of all sorts of things. But what about Socialization?
As homeschool parents, it is difficult to debate the issue of socialization because we don't know how well homeschool children perform at a social level? Of course, we know how our "own" children perform. But what do we say when we are asked to compare their performance to their public school counterparts?
Well, honestly... not a whole lot.
It's time to begin working on solidifying our argument that homeschool children perform equal to (or better than) their public school peers, regarding socialization and performativity. It's time to stop the incessant droning on of how homeschool children are less socialized. It's time to be a part of something we continue to fight for everyday... the right to homeschool in an oppression-free society.
I'm conducting interviews on the parental perspective of homeschooled children. This study is approved by the Arkansas State University Institutional Review Board.
The interview is conducted over the telephone and your information is kept confidential.
The interview is approximately 35 minutes long.
You can end the interview at any time.
You can skip any question you do not want to answer.
All you have to do is send me an e-mail and get scheduled.
Won't you help me?
Hello Dear Readers,
I cannot think of a more suitable group of friends. I really do love hearing from you. I find our interactions highly enlightening and genuinely, you make my day!
But I need a little help...
Welcome! My name is LaVonda. I am the wife of Rodney, the mom of 5 remarkable kids (well, 2 are adults now), an avid homeschooler, blogger, and graduate student. I am blessed with the ability to spend my time sharing our homeschool and life experiences with you. It is my hope to provide you with motivation, ideas, and some candid stress-relief through my blog - Mom's Scribe! Grab a cup of coffee, sit on down, and make yourself at home!