This week, we continue our series on Hard Truths. So far, we have looked at the ramifications of disorganization and eluded to the notion that indeed, a well-oiled machine doth make for easy work. However, personal health should always take precedence in all aspects. Afterall, what good is an organized home and homeschool, if you are too ill to appreciate it?
But it's more than just physical health. Mental and emotional health are to be included if we are going to talk hard and true about health. A person can have good health but still be unwell. Moreover, our support systems (friends, family, and spouse) are also important in our wellness. You can read my blog about cultivating and nurturing friendships here. But what happens when those friendships, family relationships, or even our relationship with our spouse begins to suffer, as life grabs ahold of us.
In the beginning there was... Well, we know what the Bible says and that is great! But there was also a beginning for us as daters, social butterflies, and minglers in the world. And at one time, we were cut loose and fancy free. The fun life we led while dating was surreal. But, as we settle down and marry, perhaps start a family, and really begin to share our lives, we often lose that carefree mind and worry sets in.
We worry about our own selves, but moreover, we worry about the health of our husband or wife, our children, our parents (who are beginning to age). We worry about society, social programs, and continuing education. We worry about personal finances, home mortgages, and 401Ks. We worry about meals and housework. We worry nonstop! And that robs us of our quality time with our family, friends, children, and even our spouse.
So how do we step away from all the worry and truly value what we have? It is difficult. I'm not going to lie - I've had a very hard time finding time to spend with my spouse at a quality level. Sure, we eat together, we share the same bed, and we even bump into each other in the hall. But, I mean real one-one-one QT! The kind that requires a sitter, and getting dressed up, and leaving the house. It's nearly impossible for me to clear my mind long enough to even think of writing about it. Don't get me wrong. I am so in love with my dear husband. He is my everything!
Part of my New Year's promise (I'm not resoluting anything - promises mean more in my book) is to adopt a new way of thinking. To truly compartmentalize my thoughts because I think I have OCD. I like for things to have a natural ebb and flow and anything outside of that seems archaic and completely off center to me.
I've made several of these promises to myself and so far, I've kept each and every one (ok, not every one... damn snickers fun size bites from heaven)! In all honesty, I have kept the big ones. And now, having added the next set of promises, I'll share them with you.
There are tons of sites that offer rekindling advice, and I've found one to share. These are certainly on my list of things to do.
The take away from this rambling post is this: make time for the man (or woman) you married. Find those moments and share them together. Remember why you chose each other. Remember your vows. And make new ones! Make new memories.
Until Next Time,
Welcome! My name is LaVonda. I am the wife of Rodney, the mom of 5 remarkable kids (well, 2 are adults now), an avid homeschooler, blogger, and sociologist. I am blessed with the ability to spend my time sharing our homeschool and life experiences with you. It is my hope to provide you with motivation, ideas, and some candid stress-relief through my blog - Mom's Scribe! Grab a cup of coffee, sit on down, and make yourself at home!